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How to Tell if Your Man is Cheating on You: Part 1 – LIES — March 21, 2011

How to Tell if Your Man is Cheating on You: Part 1 – LIES

It’s really difficult when you find out that the person you care about is cheating on you. The first thing to remember is that it is never your fault and you have done nothing to cause this. Men who cheat are taking advantage of their dominant role in society and availing of male privilege that enables them to cheat easily and without repercussion. However, we believe that if women can identify, avoid, and stop enabling this behaviour, men will have to change.

Anything anyone says could potentially be a lie; but based on our personal experiences and field research, we have compiled common LIES used by cheaters in the first of a 3-part series revealing the habits and behaviours of men who cheat.  Part 2 is BEHAVIOUR PATTERNS & OTHER EVIDENCE, followed by the final part, PSYCHOLOGY. Continue reading

10 Communication Assumptions for Relationships in a Digital World — February 16, 2011

10 Communication Assumptions for Relationships in a Digital World

10. Exchanging Facebook names instead of phone numbers is an acceptable substitute when more space (or closeness, depending on the explicitness of one’s FB profile) is desired between couples meeting for the first time.


9. Placing someone on Facebook’s “Limited Profile” is an acceptable way to accept initial communication without revealing everything all at once.


8. Once mobile numbers have been exchanged, everyone is, in general, expected to have at least one mobile phone charged, on, and available at all times.


7. Because you both have your mobile phones on you at all times, any denied, missed, or ignored call or text constitutes a slight towards the contactee. These slights exist on a severity spectrum, from least to greatest as follows: ignored text, missed call, denied call.


6. The length of time that passes between a slighted contact attempt and the next attempt exist in inverse proportion to the amount the contacter likes/wants/desires the contactee, i.e., shorter lengths of time between contact attempts indicate greater amounts of desire.


5. The length of time that passes between a slighted contact attempt and a response by the contactee exists in direct proportion to the amount of anger the contactee holds towards the contacter, i.e. the greater the length of time before s/he gets back to you, the more pissed off s/he is at you.


4. Acceptable excuses for why a call or text was missed, in order of acceptability:

1. My phone was on silent.

2. I was at work.

3. I was in the bathroom/shower/bath.

4. I was in a class/lecture/meeting where I wasn’t able to answer.

5. I was at a club/concert or other noisy event where I couldn’t hear it.


3. Assumptions, true or false, that may likely be derived from the aforementioned “acceptable” excuses:

1. S/he was banging someone else.

2. S/he was probably at work.

3. S/he was banging someone else.

4. S/he was banging someone else.

5. S/he was banging someone else.


2. Due to expectation #8, meeting plans may be altered or canceled at any time, even at the last minute. Conversely, standing someone up today is infinitely worse then standing someone up in the past.


1. It’s not official…till it’s on Facebook.


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