Because single women out in the town or city defy patriarchal norms that aim to put us back in the kitchen and/or bedroom, we receive unwanted attention from some men who assume our unattached presence is an invitation. We reject this attention with decisive, declarative responses similar to the below and, if possible, quickly continue on our way.
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CHERPS/PICK-UP LINE: Hey! (or other shouting, yelling, hooting, calling over. Often done on the street or from a passing car.)
RESPONSE: None required.
CHERPS: Did you hear me?
RESPONSE: Yes, I did, and I’m choosing to ignore you.
CHERPS: Where are you going?
RESPONSE: Not where you’re going.
CHERPS: Are you single?
RESPONSE: None of your business.
CHERPS: What’s your name?
RESPONSE: I will not be providing you with that information today. (This was developed in response to police officers’ attempts to gather intelligence at protests but is applicable in a variety of other situations.)
CHERPS: I want to get to know you.
RESPONSE: I don’t want to get to know you.
CHERPS: I can’t be your friend?
RESPONSE: I’ve got enough friends.
CHERPS: Can I get your number?
RESPONSE: No. (Repeat as necessary.)
CHERPS: Any other question or attempt to carry on the conversation.
SOME POTENTIAL RESPONSES:
I’m in a rush. Bye!
I’ve got to be somewhere. Bye!
I’m on my way out. Bye!
(Repeat “Bye!” as necessary and walk away.)