Is he ignoring your text messages? Read this!

Sisters of Resistance would like to cross post this brilliant article from the current conscience on the power and domination men have in society and their decision to use this power to selectively, and insensitively, not text back the women in their personal lives. We have found this article both useful and very relevant. We feel readers may enjoy the below in conjunction with our articles on “Mobile Phone Based Lies” and the types of men we are advised to avoid.

His Selective Communication

Originally posted by Yashar Ali on 12-12-2011 here || Like Yashar’s fb page  ||Follow Yashar on Twitter

There’s no doubt that the primary way in which we now communicate is via text-message, email, and social media. Phone calls have fallen by the wayside.

Electronic communication has changed the dynamics of how we interact, creating both benefits and problems.

One problem that continuously arises in romantic relationships is the way in which men control the conversation by selectively ignoring texts and emails.

I like to call this behavior cafeteria responding.

That’s right. Just like when you go to a cafeteria, and walk around, picking and choosing what you want to eat, men who engage in cafeteria responding are also picking and choosing the messages and responses that appeal to them most. Leaving you hanging…

How to Leave a Bad Relationship – Part 1: Cutting Communication

Because patriarchy makes women feel unworthy or unlovable especially if we are single, many women who are in bad relationships end up staying with partners who don’t deserve them.  We may blame ourselves for the ways in which our relationships are failing.  We can come to rely on the relationship for our self-esteem or even our identity.  We can fall in love with the romantic idea of being in love, even if it doesn’t correspond to reality. All of this makes it even harder for us to leave.  In this guide, we explore the steps it will take to end a bad relationship and move on.

If you answer yes to any of the following questions, this article is for you.

• Do your interactions often leave you feeling angry, hurt, or upset? Unfulfilled, disrespected, or unloved?
• Do you regularly have arguments, the underlying issues of which are left unresolved?
• Does your partner display the same behavior patterns over and over without making any lasting effort to change?

Revolutionary Lovers Guide

Revolution is about love. Love for justice, equality, humanity, all the species and the planet. It follows that revolutionaries are often passionate, open-minded and skilled lovers. But to be truly revolutionary, you must approach your personal relationships with the same determination to fight inequality that you bring to your political causes.

When the revolution comes, oppressive patriarchal norms and social hierarchies will crumble away and love will be free. In the meantime, love is often complicated and even revolutionary lovers can find themselves mirroring dominant and aggressive, or alternately, passive and submissive, behaviours from the society around them.

For this reason, and in response to numerous requests, Sisters of Resistance have created the Revolutionary Lovers Guide, which we hope will prove useful to you in creating healthy foundations for revolutionary romantic relationships.

The Basics: Learning/Unlearning | Respect | Communication & Active Listening | Openness, Honesty & Trust

Becoming Lovers and Making it Last: Conflict and Compromise | Sex | Non-Traditional Relationships

Frequently Asked Questions

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