To complete our How to Tell If Your Man is Cheating series, Sisters of Resistance have compiled information on the psychological and emotional profiles of men who cheat, based upon real-life experiences collectively referred to as relationship field research. In this article, we answer the questions:
“What kind of man cheats?”
“How does the cheating show up in his emotions?”
“What are the structural inequalities that enable men to cheat?”
“What does this mean for me?”
We hope these insights will help our readers to identify cheating men, as well as reveal why, if they have been cheated on, it is not their fault.
Part 1: LIES
Part 2: Behavioural Patterns and Other Evidence
Today marks the ten year anniversary of the passing of Aaliyah (January 16, 1979 – August 25, 2001), legendary R&B singer and actress. We honor her memory by posting the 1996 classic, “If Your Girl Only Knew,” in which she challenges male domination and shows female solidarity by looking at the situation from the other woman’s perspective.
Aaliyah, you are loved and missed. Rest in power.
Humans are creatures of habit, especially with behaviour caused by systems of oppression (patriarchy, sexism, hetero-normativity, etc.). This is why it can be so difficult to pull yourself away from a bad relationship, and why it can seem easier to stay with or go back to someone who is bad for you. However, freeing yourself from the grip of an unhealthy partner is one of the best things you can do for yourself and your future.
In order to move on, there are a few steps you will need to take. As the process of unlearning is continuous, you will need to revisit these steps more than once, but each time you do, you will have new knowledge and understanding that will make moving on easier and help you to form healthier relationships.
Part 1: Cutting Communication
Part 2: Splitting Up – Do’s and Don’ts